… poorly led by men

What makes us proud of the men in our life and in the public eye? Think about it for a minute.

I recently read some things that could be totally false but wouldn’t surprise me if they were true.

Ghandi and his girls.
Ghandi and his girls.

Ghandi took advantage of young girls by having them lay next to him naked whilst also forbidding others in his ashram from having any sexual contact with anyone of the opposite sex. These girls were said to have been weeping as a result of their experience with Ghandi. But he’s just human right? And we could forgive him because he changed the world. We all want to emulate Ghandi because he challenged and improved social and political conditions. Right? He is our hero. Right?

Martin Luther King Jr had so many extramarital affairs that his wife reportedly became disillusioned. He preached to so many yet practised the opposite. He threatened the solidity of a committed marriage and healthy family life. He must have hurt a lot of women, certainly he hurt his wife. But we can forgive him right? Because he changed the world. He changed the world for black people so we don’t care who he has in his bed. He is our hero. Right?

Richard Branson illegally sold records that were air marked for export and when he was fined his wealthy parents had to bail him out. Who knows what number of other illegal schemes he devised, maybe none. But the foundation of his company is on dishonesty and he couldn’t have done it if it weren’t for the bail out. That’s only one thing that isn’t quite right about him. But we can forgive him because he changed the world. He made airplanes, gyms and mobile service easier to use and access. He is one of the most popular and inspiring men of our time. He is our hero. Right?

Obama the charm(a).
Obama the charm(a).

What about Obama? What attracted the world to him? He hasn’t saved the world. But he has charmed it. Obama has the world as his mistress. And the world is smitten, his face plastered all over the newspapers. His handsome face with that sly smile.

Well that rant about Obama was a bit of a diversion because he isn’t yet (or might never be) revered as the other three are.

But still, the question stands…

What makes us proud of the men in our life or in the public eye?

Do we allocate positive and negative points to the good and bad things they do and add them together aka saying Ghandi may have mistreated women but that isn’t severe enough to detract from the amazing change he brought about?

Or do we make excuses for them and say ‘they are only human’ or ‘sometimes to be successful you have to bend the rules’?

Maybe we don’t care about it because their ‘personal lives are their own’.

Weighing the pros and cons of our heroes.
Weighing the pros and cons of our heroes.

But what if, subliminally, the ways of these men have an effect on masses of people? What if many, attributing the success of these men to all things including their habits and ways of thinking, adopt those things for themselves also? What if the world was made of people that did tremendous things in the public but horrible things in private? What if the world was made of people who did amazing things 90% of the time but horrible things 10% of the time?

Perhaps the world is already like this. And perhaps it is because of the men that we emulate. The men that we all look up to.

Correct me if I am wrong. I bet you can’t…

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